By the time you read this, I likely will have landed in Dublin. While I have had
many ideas about what should be ahead of us on this trip—I have, after all,
worked on the corresponding research for this event for nearly a year—they have
all been thoughts about the doing of
the days, the content of the occasions, the requisite itinerary. Settling in to
let the event just wash over me as passive passenger, I now start to see
everything from the perspective of process rather than as the search for content
that has riveted my attention with its incessant demands.
This is only the second time I’ve been to Europe:
the first time on the eve of welcoming our daughter into the world, the second
on the cusp of launching her back out into that world. And so it becomes that
such travel indelibly imprints on my mind as coupled with life’s pivotal
phases. Perhaps, among such shifts in attention, I stumble upon the
philosophical as I review what’s been accomplished already in the face of what
is yet to achieve.
The curse of content-gathering is that we focus on the doing
of our project: all the deadlines that cry for completion, all the demands, all
the details. To find our ancestors in Ireland, we need to construct that
eternal chain of events, the litany of his-father-who-was-son-of, and marry it
with obligatory names, dates, and life events. Duly documented. We take up the
chain only to forge another link. When will we be satisfied? Just one more.
Just one more.
At some point, back through the ages, the paper will
crumble. There will be no more documentation. Not, at least, for those lowly
tenant farmers who owed everybody something but could claim nothing of their
own. Yet those are the very people whose ages-old life details we seek. We will
at some point encounter disappointment.
As I shift to the process of traveling there—there being
that dream destination once called home by those generations far removed from
our lifetime—there is nothing more that can be done about gathering such
details. Other than one glorious week at the national repositories of Irish
history and documents, what we will glean at this point in our journey will be
the sense of being where these ancestors once walked. It will no longer be a
time in which I, the researcher, am in control, but a time in which we must sit
back and take it all in: the sights, the sounds, the signs of history. We no
longer go to the books to extract its proof; the details will ooze from the
ambience of the places where we’ve chosen to visit. “It” must come to us—whatever
that unanticipated “it” might be.
This is a type of process for which we cannot make plans. It
only comes packaged with serendipity. There may be a Tully or a Falvey or a
Flanagan at the village market who knows just what we are seeking but could
never find in a book. Or not. How can you plan to rendezvous with the answer to
a mystery? You can only keep your eyes open, your ears perked, and be astute
about connecting the dots. Any lead can become a viable clue.
You cannot command process. You can prepare for it solely by
gathering the content to fill out all the requisite forms. But the answers we
really seek only unfold. You cannot command an unknown to “fetch.”
As we enter into this unexplored research territory, it
becomes all the more obvious that we need the permission to slack off those
demands of content and free ourselves to go with the flow of the process. We
may have once planned to travel to obtain long-sought-after content, but it’s
the process of the journey alone which can immerse us in a fuller understanding
of the lives these ancestors lived. John Tully, 1842 – 1907: it’s the dash, not
the dates we pursue now.
Above: "The Red Houses," a 1912 oil on canvas by County Limerick native, Norman Garstin; courtesy Wikipedia; in the public domain.
Above: "The Red Houses," a 1912 oil on canvas by County Limerick native, Norman Garstin; courtesy Wikipedia; in the public domain.