Thursday, December 19, 2019

Why we Need Memories


Five days before I got the phone call, my older sister most likely had her deceased husband on her mind. As she has done every year since his passing six years ago, she likely told everyone who would listen how much she missed her beloved Frank. And why not? He was her everything.

Not that there weren't any others. My sister had a large family of devoted children who loved her dearly—and several grandchildren and great-grandchildren who returned that radiant love.

But on this day of the phone call, she no longer had to recall how very lonely she was.

Even though some phone calls are not unexpected, they still can be difficult to comprehend. Or accept. It's hard to acknowledge that someone is gone—irrevocably so. Perhaps that's why it is so helpful to remember those many stories of life, rather than to be left staring at a gaping emptiness.

And so, I turn from sharing stories here of relatives long gone to take some time away to reflect on someone who has, so recently, gone to join them.

13 comments:

  1. I am so sorry for your loss. (hugs)

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    1. Thanks so much for the hugs, Miss Merry. I sure needed them!

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  2. I take this to mean you are going to tell us a story about your sister. I look forward to that, or any stories on your blog about people we actually knew in real life. I hope your readers will tell stories, also!

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    1. Lisa, I love it when readers share family stories--as you have done, yourself. Sometimes, I wish we could all get together for coffee and chat about our various research projects. That, to me, would be an enjoyable morning!

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  3. I am so sorry, Jacqui. The loss of one so near, especially a sibling is very hard. Prayers for you and the family.

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    1. Thank you, Cynthia. I so appreciate your kind words and prayers.

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    1. Thank you for reaching out, Kathy. Much appreciated.

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  5. It's so hard. I'm sorry you have to go through this. Yes, please tell us about your sister.

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    1. Thanks, Sandy. Perhaps I will be able to, soon...just too hard right now.

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  6. Christmas week has to make the passing that much harder. I look forward to your memories. In the mean time know there are many who enjoy your blog and join me in offering condolences.

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    1. Thank you, Susie Q. The heartfelt support has been so helpful.

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  7. I am so sorry, my sympathy to you all.

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