He is survived by
his wife, Marilyn.
With all the losses
that befell the Bean family in 1955, it seemed the family was dwindling to
nothing. Yet even though it seemed, with Earle Raymond Bean’s obituary
yesterday, that his wife Marilyn was now left alone, that is not entirely so.
For once, I’m
rather thankful that newspapers make editorial mistakes. In this case, it was
an error by omission: Earle and Marilyn had two small children.
To think that this
would be good news—considering those small children in question were
then aged four years and fourteen months—is not quite what I mean. Rather, that
Marilyn was not left entirely alone was one form of comfort. Yes, it was a
difficult future that faced the small family. But as hard as it seemed, they had
each other to pull into that future.
On the other hand, tracing the trajectory of the Woodworth
family’s health tendencies owing to Marfan syndrome, that future had its dark
side, too. Considering that Earle had lost his mother, Maud, when she was barely
thirty five—and even his own brother, who was thirty four at the time of his
death—Earle himself had not even made it that far. He was only twenty nine when
he passed away.
If Earle’s son Gregory had had the same level of medical
care that had been available during Earle’s generation, he would have made it
only to his twenty fourth year. Thankfully, by the 1970s, things were
different. What at that time was called “open heart” surgery became the new
game-changer for victims of Marfan syndrome.
In Greg’s case, the moment of his own health crisis came on
the afternoon of October 1, 1974. How well I remember that day—and that
miracle. Though it became only the first of several such cardiovascular
surgeries, the blessing was that it hadn’t been the last. As Greg often
commented, himself, despite the health struggles he faced, he was so
appreciative of the opportunity to have
a life. And with the heritage he had in his great-grandparents on both the Bean
and Woodworth sides, passed down through his grandparents and their family, he
had a lot of life to live—and to give. Thankfully, after that heart-stopping
moment in 1974, he had the opportunity to extend that full life another
fourteen years.
Of course, you would expect, after that point, to see me
post yet another obituary in this long tale of life that all of us eventually share.
I’d like to say I’m not going to post that obituary in deference to the privacy
of those who still remain. But I can’t really say that now. You see, the only
one left whose mention would violate that respect of privacy would be the one
writing this post.
A while back, a reader—Intense Guy, dubbed online as “Iggy”—asked
for a recap on all the relationships. In answer to his comment, “I’ve lost the
thread; how are you related to these folks?” I deferred the answer until later.
Strangely, I found myself having such a hard time keeping that promise.
It wasn’t because I didn’t know the answer. On the contrary: I know the answer all too well.
Perhaps what caused it to be so difficult to say has something
to do with the very same reason why Sam Bean could only comment, “I had a swell wife.” Coming to Sam’s defense at the time, some of you were so perceptive to
pick up on that possibility on his behalf. Iggy had mentioned,
I suspect his brevity when speaking of his wife was due to pain of loss—my grandfather would only say "she was a saint" of my grandmother after she passed away.
I have met people who will not speak of the dearly departed. It is too painful for them.
While I couldn’t see it at the time—until you all had put
words to it—I was still going through the same process, myself. Oh, I had
alluded to it in places. Like when that “fourteen month old baby” passed away last November, triggering the idea in my mind to work on this series. And
again, with the official first post, “Starting This Story at the End,” where I introduced
Earle’s son, Greg.
Now that you’ve mentioned it, yes, I can heartily agree with
the explanation for the way Sam put it about his own wife. It is too hard to put into words.
Even after all these years.