tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post3921891878860985089..comments2024-03-16T13:05:52.650-07:00Comments on A Family Tapestry: “Don’t Publish Ages”Jacqi Stevenshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-42490962026239448382012-12-11T22:38:21.101-08:002012-12-11T22:38:21.101-08:00Interesting post and comments, Jacqi! Thanks for s...Interesting post and comments, Jacqi! Thanks for sharing this story.<br /><br />LisaLisa / Smallest Leafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16811771280872197611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-81052047230219698042012-11-27T15:11:38.437-08:002012-11-27T15:11:38.437-08:00Magda, that's an interesting possible scenario...Magda, that's an interesting possible scenario. And while that type of age gap is unusual for the general population, my own parents had that same type of age difference. Interesting: considering that time period's norm. Good point!Jacqi Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-73910795843697454672012-11-26T17:14:30.866-08:002012-11-26T17:14:30.866-08:00Maybe someone working in the records office knew t...Maybe someone working in the records office knew the family of the bride or the groom and thought it was prudent to not make a big thing of the age . I , myself, do not think it's unusually large gap for that time period . Magdahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01335449359566720836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-27316006190124322482012-11-21T21:42:51.812-08:002012-11-21T21:42:51.812-08:00And oh, believe me, it's amazing how much that...And oh, believe me, it's amazing how much that mere speculation can power those wagging tongues!Jacqi Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-76194062150586157662012-11-21T09:23:28.883-08:002012-11-21T09:23:28.883-08:00Interesting bit of info..I suppose if no one knew ...Interesting bit of info..I suppose if no one knew their exact ages wagging tongues could only speculate:)Far Side of Fiftyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07995757632158408442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-75899363740003498442012-11-20T23:16:42.412-08:002012-11-20T23:16:42.412-08:00Mariann, I always assumed, when I saw those census...Mariann, I always assumed, when I saw those census reports with skewed ages, that someone either wanted to make herself seem younger, or her husband seem older. I think it wasn't your mother's preference alone, but that of an entire era (or strata within that age). Can hardly blame her for going with the flow on that one...Jacqi Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-47313966648626722332012-11-20T23:12:51.968-08:002012-11-20T23:12:51.968-08:00Michelle, when we had first found this document wi...Michelle, when we had first found this document with the note, we had thought perhaps it was due to the bride's young age. However, when I took a look at it this time, I realized that was a faulty assumption. She is of appropriate marrying age, especially for that time period. Who know who decided to indicate these instructions. A story we'll never know, I suspect.Jacqi Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-62730315631837149162012-11-20T20:09:13.550-08:002012-11-20T20:09:13.550-08:00In my mother's generation, all the women were ...In my mother's generation, all the women were sensitive about their ages. Not the men, though. But you never asked a woman her age. My mother always gave her birth year as one year later, so that she would be one year "younger." The wrong year even appeared on her death certificate. Well, OK, if it made her happier, Fair enough. Maybe all the forward-dated births on the old censuses have the same purpose?Mariannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09543003593158696611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-40089860658519358932012-11-20T15:24:31.614-08:002012-11-20T15:24:31.614-08:00That is curious. I've seen similar type age sp...That is curious. I've seen similar type age spans a few times in my various lines, but never anything indicating that they didn't want ages published. The questions never cease do they? Very interesting post. Michelle Taggarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01190457324521018834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-63301634274482461972012-11-19T20:30:04.768-08:002012-11-19T20:30:04.768-08:00Yeah, me too, Iggy! It's had me wondering ever...Yeah, me too, Iggy! It's had me wondering ever since I first discovered it. An odd thing to put on a public document.<br /><br />Glad to see you back, by the way! :)Jacqi Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-35239887142973850292012-11-19T20:29:04.130-08:002012-11-19T20:29:04.130-08:00Now that's a switch, Jana. Ah, your Grandpa De...Now <i>that's</i> a switch, Jana. Ah, your Grandpa Debs. He's got quite a story! I've enjoyed reading along on your blog.<br /><br />It was a strange notation. It's not like there aren't others who have been in similar situations--my own parents being a case in point. Perhaps it was the insular nature of the small community in which they lived.Jacqi Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-77251249107898189162012-11-19T20:26:38.427-08:002012-11-19T20:26:38.427-08:00Believe me, Grant, I'm on the search for some ...Believe me, Grant, I'm on the search for some answers myself, though I'm caught up in the big picture right now until I accomplish my goal of documenting that link to First Families of Ohio status.Jacqi Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-12867752440258044622012-11-19T20:25:04.264-08:002012-11-19T20:25:04.264-08:00You definitely have a love for stories--as I'v...You definitely have a love for stories--as I've seen after having stopped by your own blog the other night--so I can understand the questions. Unfortunately, several of those questions will have to remain unanswered for the time being, mainly because I have no way (yet) of finding out, myself! I can say John Flowers had no children from a previous marriage. This was his first marriage, as it was hers.Jacqi Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-23794843720724467762012-11-19T20:21:39.697-08:002012-11-19T20:21:39.697-08:00Well, that wasn't the case here. I have no ide...Well, that wasn't the case here. I have no idea how this match came about (I'm sure I'm in for more stories at some point) but this was not a second-marriage scenario.Jacqi Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471698670217119444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-11370803654882033702012-11-19T12:47:55.523-08:002012-11-19T12:47:55.523-08:00Hmmm......Hmmm......Intense Guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441598926026727682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-65845379377512738242012-11-19T12:22:42.633-08:002012-11-19T12:22:42.633-08:00I don't think I've ever seen that written ...I don't think I've ever seen that written across any of the marriage records I've researched. How funny! I also have a May-December romance in my family history. And the subjects of this romance? My own dear Grandpa Debs and his first wife Sarah. He was 14 years YOUNGER than her. When they married, he was 22 and she was 36.Jana Iverson Lasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07687969613629975601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-62944709454921990162012-11-19T12:03:58.227-08:002012-11-19T12:03:58.227-08:00Yes this story does raise some questions. That is...Yes this story does raise some questions. That is what makes family history so fun. There are always more questions to be answered when you find something.The Brigham City Forthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15730977120055467249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-76006975073579476632012-11-19T07:39:01.223-08:002012-11-19T07:39:01.223-08:00This is a great story. I wonder why she married h...This is a great story. I wonder why she married him? Was it for security? Did he have young children that neede a mother? Was it based on love? What happened to her? <br /> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06209998757955950051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5034998384799920884.post-30804937046623859542012-11-19T03:53:36.222-08:002012-11-19T03:53:36.222-08:00Oh shocking! I have several of those May-December ...Oh shocking! I have several of those May-December hook-ups in my line. The creepiest though is the old geezer whose wife is a year younger than his son. Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17863357756727783017noreply@blogger.com